The Key To Scoring ALL The Dates On Bumble, Revealed
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As anyone who’s been single for a long time will tell you — not all dating apps are created equally. And they’re not meant to be; each one serves its own unique purpose and offers its own unique value, giving you the opportunity to connect with a like-minded partner through the game of swipe-left, swipe-right, match and go. If you feel like you’ve tried everything — from Tinder to eHarmony and OkCupid and beyond — but haven’t given Bumble a try, it’s time to experience the buzz for yourself.
Unlike most other dating apps, whose equal-playing-field approaches mean men tend to send more of the opening messages, Bumble puts the onus of first connections in the hands of women. Yep, if you’re a guy, you literally can’t send the first message — you have to wait for your female match to send hers in order to chat.
Not schooled on the dos and don’ts of the most strategic and effective ways to surf this app? Here’s the info you need to know before downloading and dating:
1. How It’s Different
When you first set up your Bumble profile, it’ll be reminiscent of all the online dating profiles you’ve created over the years. While you do have a handful of extra photo slots to fill up with images that show off your interests (Surfing? Hiking?), your hard work at the gym (just… not a shirtless one) and your travel pursuits (Japanese temples and Bali sunsets for the win!), actually interacting with women on this site is much different than all the rest. How so? You can’t chat with the ladies until they message you first, completely omitting the stress that comes with creating a one-liner that makes her reply back.
When the founders of Bumble set out to create this spin on other dating apps, they wanted to ensure women weren’t plagued by the sometimes creepy messages they receive from men they don’t know. As a feminist take on dating that omits the cultural norm that dictates a man must always make a first move, Bumble changes up the gender expectations and allows women to be in control of their own online dating dynamics. With Tinder or other Tinder-like dating apps, many women find the endless, inappropriate messages from strangers to be disruptive to the process of online dating.
Not only can it be insulting, but at times, it can actually encourage a woman to give up on a dating app, merely because she doesn’t want to be harassed by men with ill intentions. That’s why giving women the steering wheel is a refreshing take for not only the ladies, but for men, too. If they feel more comfortable using Bumble, they might be more receptive to your flirtations. In addition to taking the pressure off, it also teaches you patience and allows you to see the experience from the female side, as you respond to initial inquiries instead of making the first gesture yourself.
Though it might be a sigh of relief that you don’t have to spend time crafting the best first message, replying is just as important as starting the conversation in the first place. Women who use Bumble might be a tad more forward than others on respective dating apps — their mere presence on the app suggests that they’re not only willing, but might actually enjoy the process of reaching out first — but they’re not a different species entirely. Just make sure you craft your reply quickly — since, unless you upgrade to the pro service, you’ll miss out on the match within 24 hours if you don’t shoot a message back.
2. Setting Up Your Profile
After downloading this highly rated app from your smartphone’s store, you’ll be prompted to sign-up via email or Facebook. The rest is self-explanatory: select photos that put your best smile and smartest representation of your personality forward, fill in your age, your location, educational background employment and a short bio. While you should follow the same rules of verbiage and decorum when creating your romantic profile, it’s important to note that Bumble extends beyond dating to foster other social networking relationships.
In addition to helping you feel the sting with a lucky lady, Bumble also encourages networking for business, industry and entrepreneurial endeavors through Bumble Biz and fosters new friendships, via Bumble BFF. How’s it work? Much like when you’re swiping to score a happy hour date for Friday night or a brunch buddy for Sunday afternoon, you can toggle over to these sections of Bumble with a specialized profile for your purpose and perform the same action. Don’t let the name ‘BFF’ throw you off though, many friendships have been created via this method, especially since Bumble was inspired to create this feature after hearing back from customers about the desire to meet platonic friends, too. Bumble Biz is a tool to have in your back pocket — literally — to find folks in your network who share the same industry, want to grow their teams or even want to join together to create a new company. Just make sure you’re on the right profile when you’re swiping, since you don’t want to accidentally hit on someone who is merely looking for a web developer, not a boyfriend.
3. Swiping On Bumble
You’re already schooled on the online dating app tango, but with Bumble, women making the first move changes the game. Bumble also incites action, since there is time limit on messaging and connecting. Once you and the woman you’re interested in have matched, she has 24 hours to reach out to you, or the connection expires. This means she must reach out promptly once you’re a pair or you’ll be sent back into the dating pool, where you can hope you come across one another again. Though you can’t reach out to her yourself, if there’s a special person you’re especially interested in, Bumble does offer an ‘extended’ feature where you can choose one woman at a time to give an extra 24 hours to. This lets her know you’re definitely interested in her and might be the nudge she needs to shoot you a ‘Hi, how are ya?’ chat. Swiping too fast and make a mistakes? If you accidentally swipe left when you meant to send the swipe of approval right, you can purchase coins via Bumble that let you go backwards and have a re-do, too.
BONUS: Other Dating Options
If Bumble doesn’t sound quite right for you, here are some other options that might suit your style better:
AskMen Recommends: Founded more than a decade ago, Zoosk has one of the largest international presences of all the dating apps. It’s available in more than 80 countries, offering 25 languages. Though the app was free for many of it’s years, it’s now a paid subscription that requires payment before messaging. Ideal for digital nomads or those who travel frequently for work, you can always find matches when you’re on the go. It’s simple interface makes it easy to match and chat, without too much of a profile to weed through.
AskMen Recommends: If you’re serious about finding love and having a long-term, stable relationship, you likely won’t find much success on Tinder or other hookup-focused dating apps. Even if they’re not intentionally X-rated, many end up becoming a breeding ground for hookups and casual encounters. Worth the investment to discover a connection that goes beyond physical attraction, many people have found lifelong partners via Match. Here, you can expect serious conversations, an older, more mature crowd and dates that stretch beyond one night. Grab a beer and take your time filling out your profile, since it’s an essential part of the app.
AskMen Recommends: Can’t be bothered to swipe — or frankly don’t have the time? Enter: Elite Singles. This UK-founded site uses impressive data-driven metrics and analytics to hand-select singles for you. You’ll put in some work though, since the 45-minute personality questionnaire asks well over 100 questions to determine your type. Once you’ve rolled up your sleeves for the experience, you’ll be delivered matches. The pitfall of course, is you can’t search yourself, but rather, allow the service to do the matchmaking for you.
AskMen Recommends: NSFW or really, for finding love, this site is much more X-rated than PG-13. Here, you’ll be face-to-face with eroic photos, videos and webcams, live model video chats, a sex-ed academy and much more. Unlike other dating apps, the idea here is to find sexual partners to experiment with or a third person for your threesome, if that’s your vibe.
AskMen Recommends: As the largest kinky site out there, you can count on this community to be supportive and robust. Though there’s no specific data on how many women actually use this site, many users seem satisfied, since they’re able to explore fantasies and discuss their flavors without fear of being judged or rejected.
Source : AskMen.com