Meet The Couple Making A Million A Year And Proving Age Is Just A Number
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Men date younger women all the time, so why can’t the reverse be true? Cathy and Doug prove it’s not just possible – for some, it’s ideal. While most wouldn’t bat an eye at a man marrying a woman ten years younger, when it’s reversed, unfortunately, it’s still taboo. Yet forget sexist societal norms: the couple is happy and welcomed their first daughter four years ago. They met at the gym, and have been happily together for seven years. While they say at first some rolled their eyes at their relationship, as it stood the test of time, friends and family jumped on board (especially once a baby was in the picture).
Names: Cathy and Doug
Ages: 43 (Cathy) and 33 (Doug)
Location: Hoboken, New Jersey
Industry: Attorney (Cathy) and personal trainer (Doug)
Individual salaries: Fluctuates, but $60,000 (Doug) and $900,000 (Cathy)
Combined salary: Roughly one million annually
Relationship status: Married with one child
AskMen: How did you two meet?
Doug: I was Cathy’s personal trainer at the gym. After a while it was pretty obvious that there was chemistry, so I asked her out. It was frowned upon where I worked, but I was in the process of starting my own private company anyway. She was wary at first about dating, but I convinced her.
Why were you wary?
Cathy: Honestly, it was just such a cliché. At the time I was a recently divorced from my first husband, and it was like, ‘Do I want to be the divorce who starts f*cking her younger trainer?’ The answer I came to was yes, that sounds exactly like what I need. Doug made his intentions clear from the beginning that he was looking for something more, but I thought it was just sex. I’m over it now, but I was worried about how it looked. I assumed everyone would think that the hot younger guy was just interested in me for my money. Now I’m really too happy to care what other people think. Plus being a working mom leaves you little time to worry about much else.
Do you keep finances separate, or shared?
Cathy: When we were dating Doug actually paid for most dates, even though I made more. I think he was trying to prove a point [that he wasn’t after my money]. As things got more serious, especially with marriage and having Grace [their child], money merged. It made sense as our schedules changed, too. Doug sees clients at their homes now, and actually makes more money than when he did at the gym, but his schedule is freer. I need to be in the office most days, so he takes on the role of stay-at-home dad. When you become a parent, everything is blurred so it only makes sense that who pays for what did too. I make more; it only makes sense that I pay for the majority of our living expenses.
Did the way you were raised impact how you looked at money?
Doug: My parents shared a company, but my mom always in charge, even if it was both of them on paper. I definitely think growing up with a powerful and confident female figure in my life took away any insecurities about being with a woman who earns more than me. Cathy’s ambition and work ethic have always been a turn on for me.
How did your former relationships affect how you view money?
Cathy: My first husband wanted to be “the man of the house” and was threatened by how much I earned and worked, and I knew I could never do that again. I enjoy making more, honestly. I have worked very hard not to be dependent on a man.
Doug: I struggled in general with dating before Cathy. I was always into older women but had been shamed for it, even though I think a lot of men are. And a lot of ex girlfriends were always on my case about being a personal trainer. They didn’t see it as a proper lifelong career goal, which it is, but just some hot job to have in your 20s. Cathy accepts me for who I am, and I do the same for her.
Do people comment on the age difference?
Cathy: Well, I do look good for my age, so not really, but friends and family were concerned that he was too young or whatever the male version of a gold digger is. Thankfully that died down the longer we were together and especially after Grace.
What’s something the other has recently bought as a gift?
Cathy: Much of our money goes to Grace these days, but I got Doug some nice dress shirts.
Doug: I treated Cathy to a full spa day to help with work stress.
How much do you spend on the following per month?
Cathy: We own a home, we don’t rent.
Cathy: We pay about $6,000 a year on car insurance.
Cathy: We each have credit cards, but we try and pay it off at the end of each month, usually a few thousand dollars max.
Doug: I do most of the cooking, but we eat out once a week and hire a babysitter, so $1,000?
Cathy: Hmm, let’s say $400, including Grace to be safe? We don’t buy clothes every month, but stock up usually before a new season for the whole family.
Source : AskMen.com