Meet The Role-Playing Couple Using Their $230K Income To Finance Fantasies
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By day, Paul creates films and commercials within Miami’s entertainment industry. Chelsea works as a buyer for local boutiques, helping to pick out fine jewelry and the latest fashions. Yet by night, she’s more interested in dressing up in costumes that you must go elsewhere in South Beach to stock. The engaged couple enjoys role-playing, or dressing up and acting out various scenarios, such as doctor/patient, secretary/boss, and student/teacher in the bedroom. AskMen asked them advice for others interested in role-playing, and if it’s expensive to become a maid for a night.
Names: Paul and Chelsea
Ages: 31 (Paul) and 32 (Chelsea)
Location: Miami, Florida
Combined income: $230,000
Separate incomes: $150,000 (Paul) and $80,000 (Chelsea)
Relationship duration: 15 years
Relationship status: Engaged
AskMen: You two have been together for 15 years. That’s pretty rare today for such a young couple. How did you two meet?
Paul: We met in high school. We started dating when Chelsea was in 11th grade, and I was in 10th. It hasn’t been 15 years straight; we broke up for college and dated on and off during the early part of our 20s.
Chelsea: Telling people we’ve been together since high school is easier than explaining the intricacies of navigating a long-term relationship and the periods of our life in which we dated other people. We’ve been together on and off since high school, but the past five years we’ve been together the whole time. I had been working in Miami for a while, and Paul moved here from Atlanta. We grew up in Miami, so it’s where our relationship began, and our families are here.
Did these other relationships you mentioned inform the way you talk about and spend money together?
Paul: Neither of us were really serious enough with someone else for finances to be a major factor. They did however, help us realize that we wanted to be together.
Do you keep a shared budget?
Chelsea: Yes. We’re both pretty organized people, but Paul is a producer [which often means creating budgets for a living] so he made a budget for us to stick with when we moved in together. And when it comes to who pays for what, Paul pays for more since he makes more, but it’s pretty evenly split based on our incomes.
Is there ever an erotic component to money?
Paul: I wouldn’t say that money turns us on, but we do invest in our sex lives. Chelsea loves lingerie, and role-playing with costumes is a part of our sex lives.
Can you elaborate?
Chelsea: I have a school girl costume that I’ll wear. I have a French maid outfit, a robe for massage scenarios, some business-y outfits I wouldn’t normally wear to work for boss/secretary, you know.
Are they expensive?
And the costumes help you get into the mood?
Paul: Absolutely. Think about it; soldiers wear uniforms, actors wear costumes to step into a character — clothing absolutely helps you enter a scene [a term for kinky sexual play].
You recently got engaged. Did that change the way you talk about money…or sex?
Chelsea: Not sex, no, although planning a wedding is a full-time job (and expensive) and we’ll finally open a joint bank account soon.
You’ve been together for so long, do you have any tips on spicing up the relationship? Do you recommend role-playing to other couples?
Chelsea: Only if they want to! But yes, it does work for us.
Will you share how much you spend on the following?
Paul: We rent an apartment for $1,900 a month, but after the wedding, we’ll be looking to buy.
Paul: We pay about $7,000 in car insurance per year combined.
Chelsea: I get some discounts through my work, but clothing is something that I absolutely splurge on. To be safe, let’s say $200 a month but probably more. That’s always the line I go over on Paul’s budget.
Chelsea: $500 a month? We do tend to eat out a lot.
Source : AskMen.com